Mother’s Day can be hard after experiencing pregnancy loss. Miscarriage Hope Desk founder, Allison Schaaf, shares her thoughts on Mother’s Day after miscarriage, including things you can do to prepare.
Some things to consider for Mother’s Day After Miscarriage
1. You can always say “no”.
If you’re invited to an event you know will be triggering, give yourself permission to say “no”. If you feel relieved when you consider declining, it’s likely the right choice.
2. Consider staying home.
At many places, like churches or some restaurants, on Mother’s Day, people will ask if you’re a mother to give you a flower. If that will be hard for you, consider skipping that day.
3. Think about a social media break.
There will be a lot of focus on Mother’s Day on social media this week. If that will be hard for you, consider taking a digital break.
4. Rethink plans for the day.
If you go out to brunch, know that the servers may ask you if you’re celebrating.
What can you do instead?
1. Go for a walk.
This is a big one for me and my mental health. Going for a drive or taking a long shower can be therapeutic as well.
2. Make a call.
Plan a call, or in-person get together, with a friend or loved one who knows what you’ve been through.
3. Book a massage.
Consider letting the massage therapist know ahead of time that you don’t wish to talk about Mother’s Day.
4. Make a special meal at your house.
Take this opportunity to connect with your partner and plan something special at home.
5. Reach out to someone else.
If you have a friend or loved one who is also struggling with loss, consider reaching out to support them.
6. Journal or visualize.
In addition to making space for your emotions, you may be in a place where you can journal and visualize about your hopes for the future.
Really consider what will be best and most healing for you and do that.
Topics Discussed: Mother’s Day after miscarriage
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